Sunday, November 15, 2009

Courting Death

Of late, the newspapers carry suicidal deaths among teens and young couples alike for the most flimsiest reasons - teacher or parent scolds student, love failure, fights between a newly wed couple and so on. We have a serious issue at hand. We have a new breed of people who court death more than they court life.

It may be the easy way out for your problems - it may be called cowardice or escapism because of the inability to face the challenges that life throws at us or those that we create ourselves. However, what may seem trivial to the outsider may not really be the case for someone in the thick of an intense situation.

I have always wondered what it takes for an individual to take this extreme step. It certainly calls for a lot of guts, which I do not have. Some people have thought about it no doubt. I think it is natural when your mind is fraught with issues and everything seems meaningless - it is like fighting your way through a thick dense forest with no chances of seeing sunlight, and you are desperately cutting through the vegetation looking for that thin strip of luminous light, which you believe is the answer to your problems.

What contributes to this mental makeup? Possibly a lot of peer pressure, living up to the Joneses effect, unhealthy comparisons, impatience, hot headedness, depression are some of the things that come to my mind. But a strong social network can do wonders for the mind, body, and soul. This is where both family and friends become the very lifeline who can pull you out from short circuiting your future.

At the end of the day, we look up to people whom you believe in, who are willing to be there for you through all your dark days, and give you the confidence to survive the ordeal. The moment that trust dies, so does the last flicker of hope.

I am reminded of Marlyn Monroe's quote that stands out in this context,
"It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone."

Today where technology has taken over people, where the familiar phone ring on your birthday is replaced by the constant beep of your mobile messages, and you no long hear your loved one's voice, every beep should also serve as a wake up call of a dying relationship.
It is never money or the gifts that make the cut. It is the human presence that makes a world of difference - that some one is willing to listen to us and believe in us no matter what the rest of the world has to say!


Anonymous said...

Ahh. I can see a logical progression of thought here. I love the description of the jungle of thoughts. It's probably the closest description to the reality of overwhelming thoughts that I have come across.

Self, time and space are the three things that a human being needs foremost when forging successful relationships.


Shilpa Kothapalli said...

Love this one.Especially the quote.